I honestly think one of the best things about being a parent is being able to show your child that they can love themselves as much as they love anyone else in the world. Two years ago, in February, we started having "Self-Love Days" for each of our kids. We started with our oldest child and we haven't looked back! This isn't what I'd consider a "yes" day or a "pamper" day by any means. We talked to all of our boys and explained that loving others starts with loving yourself. Having a "self-love day" means making a list of all of the things that bring you peace and calm, things that you love and enjoy doing, spending time alone or with people who make you happy, etc. I also added in "self-love day" cards for them. These were literally just cards with affirmations on them, tailored for each child. They now keep these in their bedroom in their comfort boxes, but it was a nice addition to set the tone for the day. Once their lists were made, we planned for the day!
Staying in pajamas all day.
Donuts on the favorite comfy chair for breakfast.
Coloring, drawing and painting cartoon characters.
Building Legos with little brother.
Watching a movie in Mommy and Daddy's bed with a ringpop.
Having a Red Robin burger for dinner.
As a mom, I have nothing to give to my children if I have no love for myself-- something I'm continuously working on. The boys understand this. They can see me having "self-love days" for myself when I choose to read my favorite book, treat myself to coffee, spend time on projects and scheduling special takeout date nights with my husband. I love helping these little people love themselves!
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